Sex is a big deal. Culture and movies may tell you it’s not, but it is. Not only can you get diseases or pregnant but it also affects you emotionally and even mentally sometimes. This can apply to both men and women. It does seem to be more common where men are pressuring women, but honestly, it can go both ways.
There are many reasons to say no to sex. Maybe you aren’t ready. You might not feel you know the person well enough. Maybe there is no commitment. You could be waiting for marriage. Your religious beliefs might tell you to wait. Everyone is different but at the end of the day, sex is the most intimate act between two people and should be saved for someone who is worth it.
Here are 15 things you can say when someone pressures you to have sex.
If you aren’t sure whether or not you should be having sex or should start having sex with your partner, the answer is probably no, but feel free to take this quiz, Should You Sleep With Him? to find out.
If they say – You can say
You only live once – True, and I don’t want to mess it up by doing something I’m not ready for
You’re grown– Yes and that’s why I need to be smart about my body
Come on, everyone’s doing it – It’s a good thing my name isn’t everyone
We’ve been dating for a while now, it’s the next step – Actually, a commitment between the two of us should come first as the next step
I spent a lot of money on you – I’m not for sale
I want to make sure we are sexually compatible – Sex is something we can work on together, if we aren’t compatible enough emotionally, mentally and spiritually, then we probably won’t be sexually compatible anyway.
I really like you – I really like you too but sex is for love
I love you – so that means you are willing to sacrifice you wants and needs for mine right? Because that’s what real love is.
If you really loved me you would – If you really loved me we wouldn’t be having this conversation
I need sex – I need love and commitment
It will be fun – I’m having fun just spending time with you
Just let me show you how good it is – I’m sure it will be even better if we wait
You already made me hard/wet – Well it sounds like we need to slow things down
We’ve already done it before – Yes and it was great but I’m not ready to continue being sexually intimate right now and I’d appreciate it if you would wait until I’m truly ready.
If you don’t do it I’ll break up with you – Okay, bye
And the last thing you can always say if these responses don’t work… NO. Leave if you have to. It is your body and you decide what happens.