Face it, we humans are creatures of habit. Many of us find a routine that works for us and we tend to stick with it. A good majority of people go to work with a set schedule, come home, eat, do something relaxing like watch tv and then head to bed. Many people fill their weekends with running errands and maybe going out to dinner or a movie if time allows.
After a while this routine will start to feel stale. We start to crave something more, something interesting and exciting.
This happens in relationships too. We can get set in a routine and after time it starts to feel stale and boring. Many times, we blame our partner and say that they are the boring one. We complain that they never do anything interesting or fun. We might even feel like it’s time to get a new partner who will make life more exciting.
Chances are your relationship just needs to be spiced up a little bit. Just like with a meal that taste bland, adding a few spices and new seasonings can change the entire meal and make it taste 10x better.
So, before you start to feel like you need a new partner, try some of these tips to see if they make your relationship a bit spicier and exciting.
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1. Talk to your partner about it
The first thing you should do is talk to your partner about how you’re feeling. If you never talk to them about it, how are they supposed to know how you feel? They might think that everything is fine while you’re considering leaving them.
Many times, your partner will be feeling the same way. If you feel things are boring, there is a good chance they do as well. Even if they don’t feel the same way, if they really love you, they will be willing to work on things to make you happy. Open communication is extremely important if you want a healthy and long-lasting relationship.
Talking about it first is also great because they might have some ideas of their own. There might be something they have been wanting to try for a while, but they weren’t sure you’d want to try. And on the flip side, if there is something that you’ve been wanting to try this is perfect opportunity for you to bring it up.
2. Couples Board Games
Board games are a great way to mix things up a little bit on a night when you just want to or have to stay in. There are tons of different options to choose from depending on how you want to spice things up.
You can choose a game that allows you to ask questions and get to know one another better. These games are great because you sometimes don’t know as much as you think you do about your partner. The questions will help you to get to know each other on a deeper level. They are great for new couples to grow deeper connections or even long-time couples as a reminder and refresher on why they liked each other in the first place.
Some question games such as The Ultimate Game for Couples are pretty mild and focus more on getting to know each other on a deeper emotional level. Other games such as I’ve Never Board Game tend to focus a little more on adult themes such as sex and drugs. Those can be fun to spice things up and be a little naughty with one another.
If you’re not feeling a question game there are tons of other choices. You can always play a traditional game such of Monopoly or card games. If you’re drinkers, drinking games such Drunken Tower or Kings Cup Extreme can be a lot of fun.
Another great type of game is a game where you have to work together in order to win such as House of Danger or Escape Room The Game. These types of games are great to help with communication skills and learning to work together as a team, all while having fun.
This article Top 10 Board Games for Adults 21+ is full of more great options. (I love board games if you can’t tell lol)
3. Random Date Nights
If you aren’t going on regular dates, that’s the first thing you need to change. Make sure to set aside time for each other, ideally at least once a week, to go on a date night. Of course, it can be a little more difficult with children, but the goal is to set aside some time for each other each week to just enjoy being with one another. And there are plenty of things you can do while the kids are sleeping and without even leaving the house.
Now that that’s settled, going to dinner and a movie as your weekly date night is going to get old fast. If you feel like you’re out of ideas of what to do for a fun date, try out this book The Adventure Challenge Couples Edition. This book contains scratch off adventures to add a little spontaneity and romance. Each adventure has little icons next to it with various cost, how much time it will take, etc. It’s a great way to do something you’d never think of doing on your own.
If the book is a little too pricey, check out this version for a lower price! Fun & Adventurous Date Night Box – Scratch Off Card Game. If you don’t want to spend any money, you can always google ideas as well! The book and game just add an element of randomness and a little extra fun.
Another good idea is to take turns planning date nights. One week will be your week where you plan out a date and then the next week it will be your honey’s turn. You can even do themes each month or week. Like maybe one week is romantic date night where you have a candlelight dinner in your backyard. The next week could be Mexican night where you go out to get tacos, drink margaritas and do some salsa dancing. Or do a relaxing date where you get couples massages.
The idea behind the random dates is just to do something out your normal routine. Keeping things interesting and fun will increase the chances of you both staying satisfied in your relationship.
Still stuck for date ideas? Take this free Quiz: Where Should You Go On Your Date? for more ideas!
4. Spontaneous Sex
One of the benefits of being in a committed relationship is someone to have sex with on a regular basis. If you’re not having sex on a regular basis, then you should communicate with your partner and figure out why that is. If you just had a new baby or have three kids at home, then yes, it’s a little harder to find the time or even the desire to have sex. Maybe you’ve both just been really busy and tired. Or maybe there is an issue with attraction? You’ll never know unless you talk about it.
Once you’re having regular sex then you have to make sure it’s not boring. It’s awesome to have a regularly scheduled date night that typically ends in sex or even just a scheduled sex night, but why not mix it up a bit?
If you’re honey is watching TV before bed, why not initiate a little fun instead? If you are both out running errands, why not have a little fun in the car before going into the store? If you are supposed to go to an event and finally have a babysitter, why not skip the event and rent a hotel for a few hours instead?
The possibilities are endless. The basic idea is to make sex fun, adventurous and exciting. Maybe even a little risky. Sometimes the thrill of possibly getting caught can really spice things up. You don’t have to have sex in public of course, but somewhere private but still a bit risky.
And also consider trying new things in the bedroom as well. New locations and times can be fun, but so can new positions, items and even some role playing.
5. Travel Adventure
Have you ever just gotten in the car and drove to somewhere new? If you haven’t you should definitely try it. You don’t even need a ton of money if you budget correctly.
You can go on a day trip, weekend trip or even a week long vacation. Try to go somewhere you’ve both never been before so that you can explore and discover it together. It’s great to show your honey somewhere you love but it’s more exciting to figure it out together.
The possibilities are endless on what type of adventure you can go on. You can keep it simple and go on a hike together or you could drive to a new city a couple hours away to explore their downtown area.
You could jump in the car and just drive without looking at GPS. Just follow the signs and pick random roads and stop when you find something that piques your interest. Or go on a camping trip for the weekend.
If you have the time and money, try picking a flight to a random city you’ve never been to. If you want to get a little fancier, book a stay in a resort for the weekend or head to a city like Vegas.
There are tons of things you could do! The idea is to get out of your house and out of your comfort zone so that you can explore the world together. Sitting at home on the couch watching TV shows of other people doing cool things can never compare to getting out and doing them for yourself.
If you’re bored in your relationship there are many things you can do to spice things up. If you try all these things and still have issues, try taking one of these quizzes to see what you should do next.
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