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Most women have been there… you meet a really nice guy who likes you but for some reason you’re just not that attracted to him. You date him for a while and try to make it work but you start getting bored with his predictable schedule and he’s been acting clingy. You want a relationship, but you pictured something different. Someone different.

So you dump him.

Months later you see him again on social media or in real life and he seems so happy. You wonder if he’s in a relationship with someone else and wonder if he’d give you another chance. But it’s usually too late.

Don’t beat yourself up about it. You deserve a nice guy but you just didn’t realize that some of the reasons you dumped him actually were reasons you should have stayed with him.

Here are 7 reasons why you’ll dump the nice guy and regret it later.

1. He doesn’t have big dreams
Many nice guys are happy with simple lives. They are happy going to work, enjoying their hobbies and spending time with friends and family. Give them some good food and a beer and life is good. They don’t need much.

This might make it seem like a lack of ambition when the truth is if they already have a good job they like, then there really isn’t a need to be super ambitious. Their ambition in life might be to buy a home, have a good job and be a loving husband.

2. He wants to take it slow
Nice guys don’t mind waiting for the right time and the right woman. Sometimes he might be shy or just trying to be polite so he doesn’t make a move. This might make you think that he’s not interested, but truth probably is that he’s very interested. He just doesn’t want to mess things up by pushing you too far too fast.

3. There’s a bad boy you have your eye on
Yep, it’s happened to the best of us. Sometimes there is a great guy in front of you that you know is good for you, but then there’s also a sexy bad boy who you want to be with. Who do you choose?

Many women choose the bad boy. But why? Maybe it’s that thrill of trying to tame him…. making him settle down for you and change his ways because he wants you as much as you want him.

The problem with that is he won’t change unless he wants to. Nothing you do can make him change his ways, he has to want to and be ready.

So instead of being with the guy who is already settled down and ready for a relationship, you pick the guy who will hurt you. It’s okay, just learn from your mistakes.

4. He’s not the best looking
Lots of nice guys have become nice guys because they aren’t the best looking guys out there and they know it. Looks aren’t everything but it does help to be attractive when it comes to dating.

Instead of them investing time and money into trying to make themselves look better, many men choose to invest in learning how to listen and be kind. He will be sweet and patient but he might not be exactly what you pictured.

As you get older you’re not going look the same and neither will your partner. You will both get old and wrinkly. When that happens you’ll want a man who will be there for you and be nice to you. It won’t really matter how cute he was when you met him.

5. He doesn’t have a ton of money or a great job
Most nice guys aren’t a CEO with a corner office in a huge corporation, that’s usually for the alpha males who have pushed their way to the top in a competitive world. Many nice guys might not even be doctors, it takes a lot of stressful nights and years or seeing pain which can make it hard to be nice at home all the time. Lawyers have to do what they have to do to win the case which may not always be nice.

Nice guys prefer nice lives and may have a job that doesn’t seem to be very desirable at times. He may not make as much money as he’d like (or you’d like) but he may love his work or be helping others. What’s important is that he has a job that pays his bills and allows him to still enjoy life. You should too.

Nice guys aren’t workaholics either because then they wouldn’t have time for you. They won’t stand you up on date night because they have to work late. No, instead. they will take off work early to make sure everything is ready. They know what is really important.

6. He started talking about the future too soon
After a few dates he started talking about taking trips and buying houses. He asked you if you wanted kids and if you want to move to another city. This shouldn’t freak you out because you think about this stuff often, but since he said it it’s starting to freak you out a bit.

He’s just trying to make sure you’re both on the same page and want the same things. If this freaks you then you probably aren’t ready for a relationship just yet or maybe you have some commitment issues? Talking about it doesn’t mean it will actually happen.

7. He seems too good to be true
Nice guys go out of their way to make you happy and show you a good time. Sometimes it might feel like he’s trying too hard which can make you think something must be wrong with him or that he has an ulterior motive.

Sometimes he just actually likes you. Sometimes it’s worth taking the risk and giving it all you have to see what happens.

Give nice guys a chance 🙂